At 50, I Decided to Divorce after I learned 11 Signs my Husband Still Loved his Ex.
He Had Her Photos Close by, Not Archived.
Telling Her about It, Everyday Stories.
Scanned her Social Media with Still Silence.
Defended Her Ferociously in Group Situations.
Mementos Saved as Sacred Relics.
Prepared Comparisons, Unkindly made against me.
Aversion to Deep Future Planning.
Grew Sentimental on Dates to their History.
Displayed Increased Responses to her Name.
Tracked Her Family has an Active Life.
Missing Whole Heartedness in everyday life.
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It was a milestone of wisdom and self-confidence to make 50, but it was a revelation of my painful marriage of more than 20 years. What started off as the voicings of suspicions, turned out to be definite trends indicating that my husband still had unresolved feelings towards his former girlfriend of years past. These were not bomb blasts but steady, little signs that eroded our foundation. These are some of the most popular signs of emotional infidelity as affirmed by therapists and relationship coaches that I have since seen. Supported by the wisdom of gurus such as Dr. Shirley Glass who wrote a book titled Not Just Friends and the findings of the Journal of Marriage and Family, this is what I have learned along with a bit of context that hopefully, you might be sailing on. Their realization made me make the rational decision of divorce not because I was angry but because I needed to heal.